Another problem? Adults are too often convinced that they know how their child should play. They do not see motivation to learn where it appears. In fact, they try too quickly and too often to "improve" children's forms of entertainment, considering them stupid or inappropriate. This is quite a serious mistake ... The result is usually deplorable: children with poor imagination, unable to play on their own.
And how is it in many kindergartens?
Spontaneous fun is also a problem here. In kindergartens, everyday days are filled with classes, and in "breaks" many of them practice spontaneous games, which somehow fill "holes", are themselves deprived of much importance.
Is the child playing too short?
The average yearling, not to mention a preschool child, has many toys. It is overwhelmed with them. And average parents and grandparents complain that their toddler "does not respect" toys, that he quickly abandons one for the other, that he seems constantly bored, that he can not take care of himself even for a moment.
On the other hand, adults too often interfere in children's games, treat this form of time as moments that the child should spend alone: without the support of someone from the outside. It also happens that they do not understand the way of play and discipline children for trying to learn through play, experimenting, learning about the capabilities of their own body. They stand in the position of people who know better what the child needs at the moment and suppress natural curiosity, consequences and enthusiasm for fun.
What do experts say about all this? Psychologists emphasize that the topic of play must be approached very carefully. Remembering not to discipline a child for trying to learn about the "functioning" of various objects (of course, where it is safe) and to show how to play with a given object in many ways.
Why is the child playing briefly?
There can be many reasons. The most common problem is:
- buying a child seemingly "educational toys", which, apart from a few buttons, melodies and lights, do not give other possibilities for fun. Such toys can irritate and tire a younger child, and bore an older one.
- organizing too complicated games for children, difficult thematic tasks that are far beyond possibilities for a child,
- motivating team play at too early stages of development, when children are not ready for it yet,
- presenting children with toys, without showing them how to play with them and without prolonging their fun.
Fun is learning time
Parents and adults should approach the children with respect, noticing the most important things. Namely, realizing that children's play is a time of intensive learning.
Children taking up some form of spending time do so with strong internal motivations. There is no place for randomness and freedom in the game. What is even more interesting, children at a given stage undertake such activities that they need most. This means that if a child spends many hours jumping, it is necessary for him to develop the muscle apparatus and sense of balance, if he constantly assembles puzzles, then the area of the brain that is responsible for connecting the parts into a whole develops dynamically, etc.
Children can have the same fun for weeks and many times. Carefully observing them and supporting their fun, it can be seen that as time passes, the games are enriched and the time spent focusing on them lengthened. However, much depends in this regard on parents or guardians ...
How to extend the duration of the game?
The easiest way: being close and supporting the child's play. This does not mean that we are to sit back and stare at the toddler, but to be close and when we notice that the given fun is ending, try to make it longer.
At the infant stage, for example, after the child inspects the box from each side, licking it and shaking it, pour the peas inside and seal it tightly, showing what sound the toy will make. You can also put a smaller item in the box, such as a rattle. You can also hand a smaller box and show how one goes into the other. If the box is paper, you can unfold it and even tear it ...
In the case of an older child, when the toddler learns to lay blocks on top of each other and abandons play, you can extend the occupation of the child by showing the toddler that a bridge can be built from blocks, you can try to blow them away and knock them over, build a garage or house and bring your favorite toys inside . It all depends on the imagination of the guardian. In theory, it seems simple, but it is amazing how many parents do not use the opportunities behind play ...
Around a year and a half, children usually like to play situational games. They hug teddy bears, start feeding them. Here we can also help them in the fun. We do not need to immediately buy a set of plastic cups or special toy spoons. We can simply use small bowls or baby spoons and extend the fun by putting a bib on the bear, bringing the bear to the table, feeding, playing with hands, or wiping with a napkin. Then you can put the teddy to sleep after eating, cover with a blanket, comfort you, drive a cart. The fun that would last for such a small child a few minutes can be extended in this way to ten minutes or even a quarter of an hour. However, the most important thing is different, with time when we devote a few days to supporting the child in the fun, we will notice that the toddler initiates the fun himself and begins to play in the way we showed him ... He is able to focus on one object longer and initiate the fun himself . In the future, these skills are also useful to him: the learning process ultimately requires what fun: determination, focus, time and passion to discover new things.