What has happened so that the education of children has changed so much? In the 21st century, most of the children claim to be better and feel happier within the family than they did 50 years ago, and the family environment is one of the institutions most valued by young people. But at the same time, there are numerous worrying signs since:
- Parents and teachers believe they have lost educational control of children.
- There is a frequent complaint regarding rudeness and lack of values.
- There have been phenomena of child abuse towards parents, grandparents, etc.
These changes have appeared in a context of profound transformations in families and their members, such as:
- Parent-child relationship. The educational criteria have changed. It seeks to leave behind authoritarian education towards a more democratic one. Looking for symmetry in the relationship between the two where children have the ability to discuss any matter with their parents, and especially those that concern them. The problem comes when parents seek to be "friends" with their children and in the search for negotiation in all aspects. With this, another asymmetry is reached, this time putting the children of the parents above and being the children who impose their authority
- Work and lack of time. As adults, we are increasingly concerned with the personal and professional curriculum to the point of putting work before anything else. This system imposed by the new society makes it difficult to spend time with children and family, so adults will look for other ways to compensate them.
- Consumption and search for well-being. This imperative right that exists of the search for freedom to go out or take care of oneself makes priority be given to individual interests, trying not to be conditioned to commitments that could put them at risk. There is a change that goes from education to "take care of others" to education to "take care of yourself" or "others take care of me." Furthermore, well-being is measured in “having” and “consuming”. The more you have the better you are. Children are educated in the consumption that has no cost since the effort and work are already done by adults.
An American teacher and counselor named Kim Payne, affirms that there are four basic pillars on which the current education of children is based.
- Too many things. Having too many toys overwhelms children. They detract from things and everything becomes superficial for them, losing interest in what they have and what surrounds them. Having so much makes it difficult for them to develop their imaginations.
- Too many options. Being able to choose between so many options causes them to deteriorate their freedom, robbing them of their opportunity to get bored, which is essential to stimulate creativity and discovery learning.
- Too much information. This causes children to be in continuous tension and there is no moment of relaxation.
- Too much speed. As there is an excess of information, there is no time to assimilate, reflect and enjoy things.
Faced with hyperpaternity and overprotection that parents come to exercise in the education of their children in the 21st century, parents must provide them with mental and emotional balance. To do this, they must move away from the guidelines imposed by society that are sustained by the above-mentioned pillars. For it:
- Parents have to pass quality time with your children.
- Not filling the agenda for directed or extracurricular activities and that children have free time to play, paint or even get bored.
- That the information they receive is adequate, understandable and in small doses. This results in the most rational use of technology.
- To think that children are children. There will be time for them to be adults
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