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Norway - not for young Polish women?

A few weeks ago you could read on the site that Norway is the most friendly country for young parents. It allows raising children in a much calmer atmosphere than in Poland. It is to be an alternative place for Poland, where too often young people do not decide to have a child because they simply cannot afford it. Interested in this information, I decided to explore the topic more closely. Unfortunately, what I learned about Norway effectively led me away from emigration. I wonder what your opinion will be ...

Is the woman pregnant? He can count on support ...

A woman who is pregnant in Norway is not seen as a person who wants to use her condition not to work or gain additional profits. A revolutionary change in life does not create the feeling that something is being lost. A woman can easily go on maternity leave and then on parental leave without fear of losing her job. In Norway, there is an efficient system of substitutions that gives a sense of security.

Life is also better in Norway because of greater prospects of finding a well-paid job, high benefits, excellent access to kindergartens, will also train small children open to parents, to whom the childminding mother can come together with the toddler. Thanks to this, the period of pregnancy and raising small children does not have to be connected with social isolation.

Norway is not for everyone

How children are to be brought up is not left to the interest of their parents alone. It is a matter of the whole country. And according to this understanding, any "deviation from the norm" can be a reason for taking children away from parents.

The reasons why the Norwegian authorities are picking small children to parents seem frighteningly trivial. In January 2012, the issue of Indian parents who was loud in the media was they fed the child with their hands and slept in one bed with him (which is natural in their culture), and what caused outrage among those who decide who can raise children and who can not. According to Norwegian social welfare, a child can only be seen by parents twice a year for an hour, which means that the child loses contact with loved ones once and for all.

Another example? This time from the Polish yard: taking Nikola from Polish parentsbecause in the officials' opinion she seemed "sad", which was supposed to suggest that things were not going well in the family. However, what was investigated back in the 90s today can be based on guesses. The level of absurdity is so high that a user of a forum on Polish community sites noticed that a child may be taken away from parents in Norway because they did not decide to send them to kindergarten, they have too low IQ levels, too low income, etc.

However, is this really the case? Can a child be lost in Norway? There is no shortage emphatic votes of parents who decided to raise children in Norway and who claim that this is a strong simplification, that children are picked up in difficult situations, after many warnings and conversations, and that no one loses them without a reason ... What is the truth?

Threatening with a finger

The world is amazed at the decisions made in Norway, but for now only criticizes the decision to take children too quickly to parents. In 2005, the UN indicated that there could have been as many as 12,500 such cases. In Norway, there will be more than 20,000 different types of proceedings pending alleged ill-treatment of parents by children every year.

How are children raised in Norway?

Norway as a country for parents is quite ambiguous. There are many controversies. Most, however, agree that Norway is not a country for disciplined parents. For this reason, emigrants from Poland and Russia have so many problems with being here who try to influence children in various ways. It is not even about spanking, which also in Poland is not well seen, but also about screams or mobilizing children to learn. So everything that the child might not like and make him feel worse.

In Norway, there is a rule that children play after school. If an ambitious parent decides to enroll a child to learn to play the piano, and the child complains about it at school, the parent must take into account the call for an interview and even a notice about his behavior of the Child Protection Service.

The children are state-owned

The Norwegian authorities go even further. The traditional family seems to mean less and less to them. It is in this country that there is a saying that children are lent to parents. What happens in the four walls is not just a matter of the people concerned. Due to the fact that the country is created by smaller cells, especially families, state interference goes much further than in Poland. For Norwegians, there is no major ambiguity in this approach. Unfortunately for Poles there are already a lot of them.

It exists in Norway possibility of abortion, which for the inhabitants of the country is not a reason to assess or persuade a woman not to terminate pregnancy, but to inform and treat her decisions with respect. In the opinion of the Norwegians, every woman has the right to decide about herself.

In Norway, a child at all times may apply for parenting in another family. His wish counts. This child has the most important opinion. What his parents think is secondary.

The Ministry of Family, Children and Social Affairs has prepared a report proposing new criteria for assessing children's well-being. Sounds like a joke? Nothing more similar. The main theses of this report suggest that biological parents are not the most important in the process of raising children. If the authorities discover that the child is dissatisfied, he or she may be removed from such a family.

The regulation, which was proposed in February 2012, is to apply to both children born in Norway and those who stay here with parents from other countries (1/3 of children in Oslo are children of national minorities).

And what do you say? Would you move to Norway even at the risk of not understanding a consistent pattern of upbringing?