Preschooler

"They say not to force you to eat. Now I cook 2 versions of dinners. I'm sick of it"


Forcing to eat is bad. When the child gets hungry, it will come by itself. Do you agree with these statements? If so, you have most parents behind you. The problem is that everything looks simple in theory. In practice, it can be different. Because sometimes a child "feeds on air." Yes, I know that sounds irrational. However, it happens that the toddler eats very little and gets hungry in the least expected moments. In addition, it grows poorly and gains weight ...

In an ideal world, mom or dad are able to prepare meals for each child individually when each gets hungry. In the real world standing half a day by the pots becomes too burdensome or simply impossible. Another scenario is also common. The child who is left with the choice begins to eat only a few food products, refuses a long list of dishes, and the parent stands on his head to cook so that the toddler does not eat the same constantly and to provide all valuable nutrients. The question is self-explanatory - is it really good to leave the child a choice?

Why is persuasion to eat not good

Eat, at least a little bit.

Mom stood half a day to prepare such a great dinner.

Come on, it's a chicken from your grandmother ... She brought it especially from you.

I'll be sorry if you don't eat.

The wind will blow you away

For mommy ... You won't eat for daddy?

You won't grow ...

You won't have the strength ... Don't do this to me.

A little bit more. Nothing is left on the plate.

Persuading, or even forcing, eating is not good. This is nothing more than emotional blackmail, which is basically bad and adversely affects appetite, can promote obesity. The child should be able to eat or not eat everything. Simply because it has the right to do so.

However, how often does it look in practice?

He is 12 years old and has never eaten meat, tomato ...

"My son is 12 years old and he never ate tomato, cucumber, any meat, sauces. Virtually anything but fish. Selected steamed vegetables and all kinds of cheese. This is how the autonomy of a few years ends. Zosia will appear in a few months and I already know that she won't I don't want to, I'm not hungry or I can't anymore because later, any attempt at something new ends with choking or vomiting. I've had enough of making 2 dinners for 10 years. ‚ÄĚNatalia

"We give children more and more freedom of choice and we have an increasingly distorted generation" Anna

How does it happen that one child who is left with a choice will appreciate this opportunity, and the other left with him will get lost.

Perhaps the problem is not the choice itself, but too much choice? Or the way we give this choice?

Maybe instead of asking every day, does the boy want a sandwich with cheese or egg paste to prepare him a piece of bread covered in different ways? So that the child could taste everything, but with the option of eating, reaching for different sandwiches and not all the same?

Perhaps success in this case is determined by the golden mean principle?

Or maybe the problem is the attitude of the guardian? Too much emotion on his side? Then the meals become a bargaining chip. Children feeling pressure don't want to eat. They associate a meal with negative emotions. Or they quickly recognize what a parent cares most about and act unconsciously in the way the parent is most afraid?

When I ask what he eats, he invents, so I don't ask

"I used to ask what he wants for breakfast, what for dinner and there was a problem. Constant complaining. I'm not asking now. I put a plate in front of the child, wish you a tasty meal and do not comment. I don't miss disliked dishes. I used to prepare only what I knew would be eaten. We are making progress in small steps. The key, however, is iron consistency. "Monika

Some children even need a dozen or so attempts to convince themselves to some dish. Of course, there will not always be a breakthrough. You also don't like certain dishes. The truth is, however, that repeatedly suggesting dishes in many situations allows you to convince them. It is important to do it calmly, avoiding too strong emotions.

You don't eat. You will eat later

Another problem is meal time. It happens that the child is not hungry when the family eats dinner and demands dinner after, for example, an hour or two after the meal. Is it a good idea to heat your baby's food when he gets hungry?

Theoretically, this seems logical ... because everyone has the right to eat when hungry.

The problem begins when we have several children at home. Then reheating a meal for each individual can be an extremely onerous duty.

Perhaps it is worth adopting a different principle?

You don't eat dinner. All right, but dinner is in four hours. In other words - you are waiting for your next meal. When a child faces hunger once, he will probably think a second time whether it is worth indulging during a meal. However, is this the perfect solution?

Certainly not, because there are none.