Stress cannot be avoided what we know subconsciously and what the author of this book convinces us. However, you can learn to manage it. In this process, the ability to resolve conflicts, rest, ask for help and talks is very important.
Stress gives many symptoms. Not all of them are immediately associated with it. Examples are typical: anxiety, tearfulness, self-locking, aggressiveness, guilt. The most common physical ailments are: headaches, back, neck and shoulder pains, sleep disorders, increased susceptibility to diseases, stomach discomfort. Behavioral changes are also observed: forgetfulness, quarrels and explosiveness, extension of working time, or poor diet.
What will we find out?
Reaching for "Stress management" we will read how our diet, body posture and relaxation affect stress management. We will learn the meaning of so-called Felicity factor, which proves that a smile not only increases attractiveness, but also has a direct impact on quality and life satisfaction in the future. We will learn time management techniques, setting priorities and how to deal with a large number of responsibilities, which is very important for young parents.
The author devotes a lot of considerations to ways of dealing with other people. In this topic, he follows the maxim:
"Give me peace of mind, let me accept what I can't change and the courage to change what I am able to" Reinhold Niebuhr"Prayer for cheerfulness"
"Nobody can make you feel worse without your permission" Eleonor Roosevelt
This means, moreover, that being happy depends on whether we can accept what is outside our sphere of influence, what is independent of us (what we cannot change) and whether we understand that only ours allowing others will make us feel worse. We decide what to do with the message from the other person.
The author also devotes a lot of space to what we subordinate all days to. He tries to explain why some are happy with theoretically few, while others are still "looking for a hole in the whole".
A hard-working manager spent his holidays near an African fishing village. Every morning he saw a small boat returning to the waterfront. One day he asked the fisherman how long it took him to fish.
"Not much," replied the fisherman.
"Then why didn't you stay longer at sea and catch more?"
Rybak explained that his catch was enough to feed the family, so the manager asked:
"And what do you do for the rest of the time?"
"I sleep till late, play with children, in the afternoon I take a nap under the palm tree and go to the bar with friends, drink a few beers, play and sing songs. I have a good life, ”answered the fisherman.
The manager was terrified by this waste of time:
"I finished my managerial studies at Harvard and I can help you. You should start fishing longer each day. You will be able to sell all surplus fish. You can buy a larger boat from receipts. This will bring you extra money, so you'll be able to buy second and third and hire people until you have a large fleet. Instead of selling at the market, you'll be able to negotiate directly with the factories. In the end you will open your own. Then you will be able to abandon this village, move to a big city and open an office to run your business. "
"How much time do I need" - asked the fisherman.
"You will need a 20-year business plan," replied the manager
"And what will I do when my business becomes really big?" Asked the fisherman
"Then you will be able to spend weekends in a small village by the sea, sleep late, play with children, go fishing, take afternoon naps and relax in the evenings, singing and drinking with friends."
"Stress management" is a book that you can read many times at various stages of your life. Using it in both private and professional life. I would recommend!