Small child

A claiming child? No! Thankful! How to do it?


We live in a world where children are aware of their rights. They often show an attitude - I deserve it, I want it and I have to have it. On the one hand, it's good that we're shaping the generation that he won't blow the grits and he can fight for his on the other hand, units that grow too often in this spirit they demand a lot, complain a lot and are rarely ... grateful. They just lack satisfaction with what they have. Instead of peace and smile they are guided desire to have more... being better not for the idea itself, but to enjoy the jealous eyes of colleagues.

Should we worry? Why shape and cultivate gratitude at all? What will she do for us and our children?

Gratitude shifts attention from what we lack in life to how much we receive each day.

There is a lot of research on the subject strength gratitude. Most of them boil down to the fact that grateful people:

  • they feel better with themselves,
  • have a better (adequate) self-esteem,
  • are happier
  • are more optimistic about the future,
  • they cope better with stress,
  • they block toxic emotions - jealousy, envy, regret, resentment,
  • are more willing to help others,
  • have better relationships.

It's amazing how much change in thinking can change in our lives - something seemingly invisible and often discredited - as not important.

Gratitude has a beneficial effect on health

Studies conducted on children from six years of age and adults up to 80 years of age have shown that people who can express gratitude and see positive events in their lives:

  • they enjoy a better immunity system,
  • they are sick less often
  • have lower blood pressure
  • they are less likely to suffer from pain,
  • sleep better and feel more rested after resting.

Gratitude lets you see the good

All conducted research gives one conclusion - positive emotions pass quickly. Situations that once pleased us, fade, lose their charm. Frequently repeated surprises do not enjoy as much as they did at the beginning. We get used to something that we have and that is natural to us. Our emotional system then seeks change and revolution.

The parent's role is to show the child that you do not need to buy a new car, a new blouse to feel happy. Besides, such situations do not give happiness, although many think so ... Happiness can be found in everyday life in "ordinary things", small "miracles" that no one sees ...

Gratitude allows us to bring out the value of what we have, without constantly hysterical pursuit of "more", which unfortunately is a problem of our time. Thanks to this, gratitude allows us to participate better in life, enjoy what is here and now, without constantly planning and striving for certain goods. Instead of adamantly adapting to goodness, we celebrate and taste it like candy every day. Gratitude changes our life perspective from the viewer - to a person actively participating in what is happening.

How to cultivate gratitude in a child?

Today it is very easy to remain in an attitude of negativity, denying and focusing on what else needs to be done instead of celebrating what we already have and enjoying the goods that flow to us every day.

So how do you teach a child gratitude? How can you make your toddler happy with what he has without losing his ambition and self-improvement? How can you teach a child to look at life and see good points, not ignoring problems, but finding optimism in themselves that lets us believe that it will be okay?

Definitely an example. Let's be grateful ourselves.

Easy to say?

Start driving diary of gratitude with the child. Take a few minutes to draw, write or record a short statement every day, which will make you and your child realize that the day has passed in an amazing way and there are reasons to enjoy. Find at least 3 things every day to thank. The next day - 5, the next you will probably find 10 easily ... Suddenly you will find that there are really many positives in your life. Thanks to this, you will start to treat certain things as a gift, a gift, and not as a certainty, which you have passed by indifferently.

There is something else - it is worth cultivating gratitude - sharing it. Helping others, caring for the weak, supporting those in need allows us to share what we previously thought was our property. Children who see our commitment to this process will start to enjoy enormous help themselves, and this will be another reason to be grateful that it allows us to support our loved ones.