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8 myths about tantrums in children


As parents, we derive knowledge from two sources. We compare how we were brought up with what the media and modern educational methods propagate. The result is that we often get lost in the jungle of all bans and orders, not knowing what to do and living very often under pressure and a great sense of guilt that we do not prove ourselves as parents. To a large extent, frustration can also be caused by repeated opinions about tantrums in children. Which of the claims you have heard are untrue, established for generations by myths?

Tantrums are unhealthy

Not true. It's completely natural behavior, which is often the only way for a child to communicate their needs to the environment. Thanks to this, strong emotions can find an outlet and allow the toddler to spill out what is bothering them.

A child who is prone to tantrums is a bad child

Not true. Tantrums are not bad. They appear because the child cannot show his or her emotions in any other way. In addition, tantrums (except for a few cases) are not intentional.

Tantrums in childhood are a preview of future problems

There is no relationship between these two aspects. This is because most tantrums are simply caused by the child's maturing process. As the child acquires self-control and parental support, tantrums naturally become rarer to explode in a slightly changed version again during adolescence.

Tantrums in children are a sign that you are a bad parent

There are many reasons why a child has tantrums. They are not caused by parents' bad behavior. In most cases, parents have no influence as to whether or not a tantrum will occur. This is confirmed by the fact that even children of psychologists or education experts have tantrums.

There is no way for tantrums

It's not true. If that were the case, many psychologists would have nothing to do. Although it must be admitted that this is not always successful, there are methods that prevent tantrums. In addition, the parent is to teach the child how to show anger in a more socially acceptable way. It is due to consistency, perseverance and observation of the child that usually succeeds.

Tantrums are always manipulative

This is one of the most frequently repeated myths. Meanwhile, the truth is that for children who are 3-4 years old, seizures are rarely aimed at drawing attention. This is more often the case for younger children - about a year and a half - two years old. For younger children, the most effective technique is usually to ignore the seizure, and for older (3-year-olds and older), showing understanding of feelings and gently marking disapproval of the form of showing them, and then trying to talk.

The parent should always control the child

Not true. The parent is not always able to control the child. Trying to control his behavior, the parent's goal should be to teach the child how to control him in the future, becoming independent.

There is one universal way to tantrums

This is one of the frequently repeated myths that is a complete misunderstanding. Education is an activity in which there is no single scenario that works in every case. There are many methods that can cope with child tantrums.
As in the case of other educational challenges, also in this aspect the parent's methods will change as the child develops. As the child grows up, educational methods will evolve with it. Therefore, flexibility is one of the most important features that every parent should stand out.