Small child

Dad in exile


You can safely venture to say that each of us knows a family (unless he is a member himself) from which someone emigrated abroad for work purposes.

Usually, fathers decide to go "for bread". Both them and their families are often accompanied by the thought that "It's for a little", "to earn something", "to have money to start with". However, when the time that a person spends abroad without a family increases, he can have it significant impact on the functioning of children, the relationship between spouses and the entire family system.

What impact does separation from a parent have on a child?

The physical separation of a parent and child affects their mental functioning and emotional bond. The most severe psychological effects of emigration can be observed in youngest children.

The first two years of life child's a key period for the formation of an emotional bond between him and his parents. It is worth emphasizing that, despite the extraordinary commitment, presence, care and tenderness of one of the parents (the one who remained with the child) losses resulting from the absence of the other parent are difficult to make up for.

What can be the consequences of a child's long-term separation from the parent?

First of all, you can point to those appearing in the child sense of abandonment by the parent and related to him insecurity negatively affecting his self-esteem.

Child may not understandwhy his dad went away and perceive separation from his father as aimed at them alone. Father's returns for a short time and the need to part with him again may increase the fear of being abandoned by the other parent as well. Stress and anxiety associated with separation from the father can manifest in younger children in the form of reactions in the somatic and behavioral sphere. They may appear diarrhea, speech difficulties, bursts of crying, inhibition or agitation, as well as forced behavior: swaying, thumb sucking, biting nails.

Older children can be observed aggression, resistance, rebellion, anger and anger at the parent leaving the house. The consequences of parent emigration for a child's development may be related to the child's social development sphere. Observing the bond between parents, the child learns what life together, partnership, cooperation, closeness, joint decision making, support and mutual help are.

In this context, the issue of formation in children cannot be ignored gender identity and development of their understanding of gender roles. It is due to the presence of both parents in the child's life and the ability to see through them differences in social functioning resulting from gender that gender identity develops.

Every day without a father ...

Of course, every incomplete family adapts to everyday life without a father who left for work. The principles of the functioning of the whole house are slowly being formed, according to which the remaining family members act.