Small child

Taming fear, that is, if I had your problems ...


"If I had your problems" - we sometimes talk to a toddler. Childhood, especially the early one seems to be full of carefree and pleasure, without problems and idyllic. Nothing could be more wrong. During the first years of life, the child must learn to control his own body and emotions. In addition, every day is facing new, terrifying phenomena.

A child comes to the doctor ...

... and there, delectable doctor in a colorful smock, speaks to him kindly and patiently. Do you know it Me neither. There are probably such doctors and nurses, but this is not the norm. My hospital experience shows something different. Medical staff in Polish hospitals and outpatient clinics cannot talk to a small patient. Doctors are reacting impatiently to scared, frightened toddlers, nurses are more likely to settle the matter by force rather than patient translation. Non-invasive examination is stress for a child. Here a stranger intends to touch them, oppress them, auscultate. If the child has no idea what's going on, the panic reaction is almost certain. We do not count on the fact that the doctor will calmly prepare our child for examination. Let's take matters into our own hands. How? A toy stethoscope works wonders. Playing with a doctor perfectly tames the fear of a dangerous doctor. If we add therapeutic fairy tales to it (Elmo at the doctor is our private hit), the follow-up visit will not cause stress to the child, because the toddler will know what to expect.

You won't feel anything ...

Painful procedures are a separate topic. Here, medical staff not only do not help, but often harm. There is still a fashion for lying to the child. See, the bird is flying, you will not feel anything, etc. The child believes adults, especially parents. Claiming - you will not feel right before a painful intramuscular injection, although it can be effective once, it will affect the future. From now on, every visit to the doctor will be painful. Do not be surprised that the child you lied does not believe in assurance of a painless examination. Several-year-olds who take blood by force, hysteria under the doctor's office, armwrestling with nurses are common views. You really can avoid them. The child should be prepared for each procedure and, above all, told the truth. Taking blood or putting on a venflon is rather an unpleasant rather than painful procedure. Explain that the child will feel a pinch (pinch, let me pinch yourself), explain why blood is being taken, carry out a thousand "nanny" treatments with the child. Do not expect that such tactics will bring immediate effect, but its effectiveness will surprise you someday. My daughter, a year and a half, screamed at the sight of a white smock, two-year-old handed to the surprised nurses, explaining that now the butterfly would sting her to drink blood. It works!

Fashionable cut

An adult cannot think of being afraid of a hairdresser. The problem is that the boy who goes to him for the first time does not know what to expect. Here is a stranger approaching him, armed with a sharp object that mom doesn't even allow to touch. Let's not be surprised that the baby is afraid! Let's explain to the child what the work of a hairdresser is, let's take to the salon, show how a hairdresser works, let's play. Let the child know that the new haircut is a reason for pride, not fear.

Dentist-sadist

This term has become totally outdated. Today, the only pain we can expect is a possible prick of the gum before drilling. We also have children's dentists, prepared to work with children, although access to them can be difficult (in larger cities is not a problem). This does not mean that we should not prepare the child for the visit. Do you know peppa A lovely pig will help your child understand why taking care of your teeth is important. In one episode, he is visiting a dentist with his brother. Let's show you and above all, do not wait until the first broken tooth. Treatment of dairy molluscs is still not the norm. If you allow corruption and pain, the first visit will not go smoothly, and pain and anxiety will affect the next.

Do not throw into deep water

Man is afraid of what he does not know. We know for a long time that a child is also a human being. Unfortunately, many of us still forget that what we understand for children is difficult and mysterious. Every new experience that our child faces is afraid of him. We adults are afraid of the first day at a new job, we are afraid for the future. We underestimate children's fears, wave our hands and say in a surprised tone: there is nothing to be afraid of! Is it really Many of us are still afraid of the dentist or needles because of terrible experiences. Fear of heights and many other phobias can be caused by too early, violent, wrong approach to the subject. Let's not throw our children into deep water, regardless of whether the new experience is to see a surgeon or the first carousel ride.