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"Raising resourceful children. Guide without edges "


"Raising resourceful children" with the note "Guide without edges" suggests an interesting reading, from which every parent is able to shed life wisdom for themselves, perhaps helpful in shaping their child. I will start with the publishing side and graphic design:

A beautiful edition, you can see that the graphic designer applied the latest principle of interdisciplinary teaching, Mind Map. Both on the cover and inside there are numerous borders, bold, displaying relevant fragments or summing up the topic. The size of the reading is not terrifying, although it is almost 300 pages. Fortunately, a large font and numerous frames effectively reduce the content. Cost - PLN 34.90.

Substantive page. Well… The author can certainly compete in the field of hydropower. And here I predict her real success. Valuable and revealing content can be condensed up to 2-5 pages. The rest are repetitions or even banalities. The hardest part to read is language used - full of pathos, with a climate similar to "brainwashing". However, I do not know if this is the language of the author Denise D. Witmer or if she translates (Tomasz Mendant, Gabriela Górnicka) - I would have to read the original book to find out.

"A child should be happy. He should be happy in all ways, he should do everything that favors his happiness, which gives him joy, contentment and pleasure. It should be happy from morning to night. They should be surrounded by goodness. Make your child understand that you love them - prove it with your deeds, they are better than words, take care of his little pleasures, take part in games. Don't let them ever hear a bad word - it will get stuck in his chest, take root deeply, and produce bitter fruit in his time. Love! Let love be his guiding star, let it be the determinant and rule of everything you do and say to your child. "(P. 15)

Notice, Dear Readers, that all the above paragraph talks about nothing. About love - a fact. But which of us does not know this? For whom is this not obvious? And who of us is guided in motherhood or fatherhood by something else? Each of us wants our child to be the happiest person in the world, devoid of worries, logs and following only a positive life path. The realities, however, are very different. You can't deprive a child of worries or worries. I agree that Love for a child should be our guiding star. However, remember about cooperation of love with reason. He is also crucial in upbringing, especially if we are talking about "resourceful children" of whom this book is de facto. How it would be painful for our child to collide with adult life and the world, if we had surrounded him with a safety umbrella until now? His extremely delicate psyche (because how was it to harden without previous "collisions"?) Could not stand it. And yet we are not able to remove obstacles from the path of the child until death ...

Reading this guide, I couldn't help feeling that "I've heard that somewhere before." The following fragment once, that I associate (absolutely stereotypically) with mantra and sect two that in one of the programs breakfast Reni Jusis talked about giving birth without pain. She argued that this is absolutely possible, all you need is a self-suggestion repeated every day in front of the mirror. Sounds twin?

"Look carefully in the mirror and say who you are. Take a deep breath. Start with your name and then ask yourself:
What do I like and don't like?
Where did I come from and where I am going?
What do I do when I feel able to do it?
What do I do if I feel unable to do a particular thing? "(P. 17)


It is extremely difficult for me to refer to the substance of this book because, as I mentioned, the theory of raising a resourceful child is described here extremely laconic, pointless and non-substantive. There are no "specifics", tips, examples of educational models or actions guiding us and confirming the belief that it is worth leading a child in this way. The conclusion that can be drawn from this reading is thatit's enough to love, watch the child, develop him and his interests, and we can be sure that our child will be a resourceful person. Is it worth spending over PLN 30 for such "novelty" and devoting time to searching almost 300 pages? Each of us has this wisdom from birth. During life, we find that love (and reason) is the best direction indicator in life.

After tired of it bestseller (fortunately only on the US market) I am only convinced that Americans are very simply built and what is obvious to us must be instilled by scientists ...

Another conclusion that comes to me is that it is a great luck that they teach concrete and reliable knowledge in Polish Universities, pedagogical and psychological faculties. In the US, it's not enough that even State Universities are heavily paid, they don't teach them anything yet, because it's hard to define even the abovementioned phrases as knowledge. At least in my opinion, this is how it looks. Naturally, one should not generalize, but I must admit that psychological and pedagogical faculties are extremely disorderly. A lot of noise, not much content.

Finally, my "favorite fragment":
"When you start to feel stress and tension rising to the point where you can explode - stop! Instead, try one of the following options:
Take a step back and remind yourself that you are an adult.
Close your eyes and imagine you are hearing what your child is about to hear.
Close your eyes and count for twenty backs.
Take a photo album and focus on happier moments.
If another adult is present, go away and let them resolve the situation.
Take a hot bath or splash cold water on your face.
Go for a walk and take care of the matter after returning.
Turn on the music and sing.
Take a pencil and write down as many helpful words as you can think of, or write a note in your journal about what led to such frustration.
Call a friend. "(P. 102)

It's really hard not to be iironized ...